A Few Books I’ve Read Over The Past 18 Months

Over the past 18 month’s I’ve read some interesting books on the topic of sex. The books are written by women for women, and some are written for men and women.

One of the books I read was. “Living an orgasmic Life. Heal Yourself And Awaken Your Pleasure” by Xanet Pailet. Xanet has written this book for women. However, for any straight man walking this earth, there are many great lessons and valuable insights in the book.

Xanet says this:

“If you start putting up with touch that really doesn’t feel good – which is the number one complaint that women have about their sex life – you start harboring even more anger, disappointment, and regret that further disconnects you from your partner and sex life.”

Touch is divine, yet so few women have ever been given the time or care to melt into it. That’s because communication is a big part of it, and consent. If you’re concerned you’ll be touched in a way you don’t like, or touched somewhere you don’t want to be, then you’re on guard. Can’t relax, don’t feel safe. Can’t enjoy.

When boundaries and consent are clear, then touch becomes deliciously intimate, pleasurable, shifts energy, and changes your emotional state. It’s a beautiful thing that maybe reconnects you with your body for the first time, in a very long time.

Deep pleasure, intimacy, and emotional connection can only come from feeling safe, relaxed and accepted.

Thing is, many women have never been asked how they’d like to be touched, what they enjoy, what they don’t enjoy, what they’d like more of. Many women have never had their body explored without feeling like there are time constraints. Or made to feel like it’s a big effort for the man to do this for her.

And so many women have never had a truly safe and relaxed space created for them, to explore touch and pleasure.

Xanets book is a great read, and one that makes you think and question. At the core of Xanets book is communication. Communication is the portal to delicious pleasure.

Another book I read was “The Art Of Sexual Ecstasy” by Margo Anand.

Margo Anand is 81 years of age now, and the book was first published in 1990. Margos studied in tantra, and her book has her own Western spin on it. Margo developed new approaches through direct experiences.

Again, at the core of Margo’s book is communication and slowing things down.

One other book I’ll share with you is. “The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent.” By Betty Martin D.C. and Robyn Dalzen

That’s a book I feel should be compulsory reading at every high school in the country, and every man and woman should read it.

I feel, for any man or woman, a curious mind is a wonderful thing to have. Curiosity to learn more, to look at things from another angle, another point of view. Because there’s always something new to learn, about others, about yourself, about the way you do certain things.

Books are a pleasure you can carry everywhere with you.

Sam